Distance

"You live too far away.
Your voice rings like a bell anyway.
Don't give up your independence, unless it feels so right.
Nothing good comes easily, sometimes you've got to fight."
"Amber" by 311

They say that distance makes the heart grow fonder, but does it? Or does it just make the mind more fearful? Does it make us anxious that maybe the one we love, will find someone else to love in our absence; that maybe this distance thing is just too hard to do?  Well, the way I see it is that love and distance is a challenge that forces us to face our fears; that also challenges us to see how strong our faith is.

Faith is a very powerful thing:
"[It] faith, is a way of saying, 'Yes, I pre-accept the terms of the universe and I embrace in advance what I am presently incapable of understanding.' There's a reason why we refer to 'leaps of faith' - because the decision to consent to any divinity is a might jump from the rational over to the unknowable.  If faith were rational, it wouldn't be - by definition-  faith.  Faith is belief in what you cannot see or prove or touch. Faith is walking face-first and full-speed into the dark.  If we truly knew all the answers in advance as tothe meaning of life and the nature of God and the destiny of our souls, our belief would not be a leap of faith and it would not be a courageous act of humanity; it would be .... a prudent insurance policy"  - Eat, Pray, Love.

 I guess that's truly the way I see love and distance. You kinda just have to have faith in yourself, faith in the person you love, and faith that whatever troubles you are facing, will work themselves through.  Because without a little bit a faith, life would just be black and white. Sometimes, it's nice to be sure of what is going to happen next, but if you think about it, isn't life just a gamble? We can expect certain things to happen at certain times, but sometimes it just doesn't work out that way. We have to be flexible in trusting that whatever is frustrating you, stressing you out, or whatever, is only temporary. That maybe you live far away from each other right now, but soon, it may not be the case anymore.

I guess in turn also, you have to make sure whether or not the distance is really the thing that is bothering you or is it something else that you are afraid of. Are you afraid that once the two of you are together all the time that other intolerable problems will arise? I assume problems will arise BUT are they minor ones? Or are you afraid of something else?

It's probably hard to answer those questions now, but maybe with time you will be able to. Maybe it's just a matter of sorting through things in your mind in order to figure out what is good for you. Maybe our fears are just trying to get the best of us and instead hindering us from what truly is what we need.

"Distance is not for the fearful, it is for the bold. It's for those who are willing to spend a lot of time alone in exchange for a little time with the one they love. It's for those knowing a good thing when they see it, even if they don't see it nearly enough..."