Identity

Who are you? What do you want from this life? Are you looking to be successful? Have lots of money? Get married? What are your goals, values, priorities? Is it something simple like being happy?

Have you done something to achieve those goals or are you just waiting for them to happen to you? Things don't just happen, not matter what you think.  There was always something that prepared you for the next step, even if it does look like you just got "lucky".  Maybe you decided to just show up and you met the girl or boy of your dreams.  Maybe a lot of bad things happened so you could appreciate the good things you have now.  Maybe you worked your butt off now so that in the future you won't have to work so hard later.
Sounds like a lot of maybe's doesn't it?

But that's life isn't it.  If we don't take the first step, there will never be a second.  We'll never fail nor will we ever succeed. Sometimes we just have to put ourselves out there and pray that we don't fail but understand that through failure comes knowledge and wisdom and the power to fight through it and succeed.

Maybe the first step is loving yourself.  If that's your first step, why not start right now? Why not close your eyes, take a deep breath and let it all go; the pain, the fear, and whatever else is holding you back.
If you're thinking to yourself "easier said than done", it's not. You just have to actually do it.

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Did you try? Feels good doesn't it? The first breath of what will soon become your next step into who you are; who are you meant to be.

All it takes is one breath, one step, one leap of faith in yourself.

"Believe that dreams come true everyday, because they do"

OTH

Happiness

Happiness is a mood, not a destination.

-One Tree Hill

A Journey

Do you appreciate the journey or are you always looking at the finish line?
Now sure, to have an idea on where you are going is great, but sometimes, with all the distractions going on around us, it might be hard to stop, step back, and enjoy the road we're on; to admire the trees, the flowers, and the person we are on this journey with.

When you admire the journey and really, truly appreciate it, we have a better understanding of life and of ourselves.  And then when shit hits the fan, we're able to jump back in the game because we know where we are.  Sometimes, we become so focused on the destination we can't see where we are going.  We go into autopilot, concentrating our focus too much on the fact that we're not there, or that we need to be there by a specific time or a specific date.  When we get lost, we're unable to find our way back because we didn't take the time to appreciate the road around us.

Stop doing it. Enjoy each bite, each kiss, each breath, because before you know it- you'll be at your destination and never know how you got there.

Say what you need to say

Really, say what you're gonna say. Don't hold back, because honestly, it just screws you over in the end.  Think about it, you're upset with a friend and you tell everyone around you that you're upset with said friend except her.  What does that do for you? Just leaves you pissed off and leaves your friend unaware there's an issue.  Or even worse, your friend finds out that you've been talking about her to everyone else and then gets mad at you for not confronting her in the first place. You're f'ed.

Have someone that you really care about but you're too shy to say it because it's "not the right time" or because you're scared. Maybe he or she will reject you, maybe they'll think you are coming on too strong. Or maybe, something might happen to him or her, or even to you and you never told them how you felt. Or maybe they got sick and tired of waiting for you to grow a pair and speak up so they leave.

We need to take control of ourselves and come clean.  Face your issues because when you leave them in the dark, that's where they stay -in the dark and who knows what else might be back there to come out and bite you in the ass later on.  It's never going to be the right time, and we might make mistakes in the process, but that's just life. Our mistakes, our triumphs- make us who we are each day. They make us stronger and build our character.

And wouldn't it be nice to say to yourself at the end of the day- At least I was honest.

What women want

#whatwomenwant was trending on Twitter this evening so I thought I'd comment on the phrase.

What do women want? or maybe is it what do men want? Because so often I see young women tripping over themselves to attend to the second question.  How many times do you see one of your best girlfriends, or your significant other, drop everything for a guy.  Does she stop hanging out with everyone else because so and so said he "might" hang out with her? Or how about you see her hanging on every word he says on the first or second date and then sleeps with him on the third because "he's perfect", "he's exactly what I want", "he said I'm different."

Yeah sweetie, you look different. But if you want to know what guys want.. I'll let you in on a little secret. First, they want to get in your pants. Sorry guys, it's true. They want a chase. Men are hunters, they always have been and they always will be, so ladies, let them chase you.

And you know what that means... it means what men really want, is a bitch.  Now I don't say bitch, as a woman who is mean and nasty to everyone around her. A bitch is a women who stands up for what she wants, who knows who she is, and won't let anyone-man or woman- stand in her way or mistreat her.  A bitch is a woman who respects herself; who is sweet as pie, but doesn't let anyone play her for a fool. She knows her worth, and knows that she'll be just fine-with or without him.  She lets him take her out, lets him open the door, but doesn't let him come over at 2 a.m. Why? Because any man who respects you, won't be calling at 2 a.m. because he knows how busy you are. And because any man who's calling at 2 a.m, is just looking for a booty call.  A bitch doesn't sit by the phone waiting for his phone call either, because the bitch has her own life and just because a man is in it, doesn't mean her world stops turning.  If he can keep up with her, he can stay in it, but the bitch is not looking for a weigh-me-down.

The bitch doesn't try and fix his broken wings, because she's flying honey. Now ladies and gentlemen, don't get me wrong, the bitch is sweet as pie. She's never nasty and never lets her emotions take the reigns because she knows that an emotional woman is not a woman in control.  She lets her man, be a man, while she enjoys the benefits of doing so.  A man never likes to be told what to do, so the bitch never nags, why? Because the bitch wants to be his lover, not his mother.

The bitch is elegant but sassy.  Clever but dumb like a fox.  Generous but does not jump through hoops to impress him.  The man is already impressed with her true self. And why? Because she respects herself, she respects him, and that's what's sexy. She doesn't vocalize how she should be treated, she shows it through her actions.  She's sexy, sassy, and 100% real.

"One of the things about equality is not that you be treated equally to a man, but that you treat yourself equally to the way you treat a man"- Marlo Thomas

Beauty

There are so many distractions in our lives these days. Walk down the street in a busy city and what will you see:  a man on a cell phone, a woman texting, a couple taking pictures with their new digital camera, someone tuning all those people out with his iPod. Do we ever stop to appreciate the things around us? Or have we all turned into zombies of technology, walking idly through our days.

Don't you think that being "connected" is really DISconnecting us from each other.  Why tell your best friend the important news in person if you can just do it via Skype. We're missing something here.  We're missing the whole point.  Face-to-face communication, interaction with other is destroying us at the very time it's trying to bring us together.  How? you may wonder. Well, think of it this way, if you weren't always "connected", what would you be doing? Would you read? Would you take a walk in the park or on the beach and marvel at nature's beauty? Would you meet up with a friend or a love and talk for hours- really talk, about life, about you, about them, and anything else in between. Think of how peaceful things would be to disconnect for a while and really connect with life. How would that make you feel?

This next week, try to disconnect for a while; for five minutes even, and take a look at something beautiful.  Think of all the possibilities that arise when you appreciate the things around us, without the technology. Think of how free you'll feel when you take a step back, and breathe.

Believe that dreams come true every day

Take a look at yourself in the mirror, who do you see looking back? is it the person you wanna be? or is there someone you were meant to be? the person you should have been but fell short of? is someone telling you can't or you won't? because u can. believe that love is out there. believe that dreams come true every day, because they do. sometimes, happiness doesn't come from money, fame, or power. Sometimes happiness comes from good friends and family. And from the quiet nobility of leading a good life. believe that dreams come true every day. Because they do. BELIEVE that dreams come true every day. because they do...so take a look at yourself in that mirror and remind yourself..to be happy because you deserve to be.. believe that. and believe that dreams come true every day.. because they do.