Sunday, November 7, 2010

What women want

#whatwomenwant was trending on Twitter this evening so I thought I'd comment on the phrase.

What do women want? or maybe is it what do men want? Because so often I see young women tripping over themselves to attend to the second question.  How many times do you see one of your best girlfriends, or your significant other, drop everything for a guy.  Does she stop hanging out with everyone else because so and so said he "might" hang out with her? Or how about you see her hanging on every word he says on the first or second date and then sleeps with him on the third because "he's perfect", "he's exactly what I want", "he said I'm different."

Yeah sweetie, you look different. But if you want to know what guys want.. I'll let you in on a little secret. First, they want to get in your pants. Sorry guys, it's true. They want a chase. Men are hunters, they always have been and they always will be, so ladies, let them chase you.

And you know what that means... it means what men really want, is a bitch.  Now I don't say bitch, as a woman who is mean and nasty to everyone around her. A bitch is a women who stands up for what she wants, who knows who she is, and won't let anyone-man or woman- stand in her way or mistreat her.  A bitch is a woman who respects herself; who is sweet as pie, but doesn't let anyone play her for a fool. She knows her worth, and knows that she'll be just fine-with or without him.  She lets him take her out, lets him open the door, but doesn't let him come over at 2 a.m. Why? Because any man who respects you, won't be calling at 2 a.m. because he knows how busy you are. And because any man who's calling at 2 a.m, is just looking for a booty call.  A bitch doesn't sit by the phone waiting for his phone call either, because the bitch has her own life and just because a man is in it, doesn't mean her world stops turning.  If he can keep up with her, he can stay in it, but the bitch is not looking for a weigh-me-down.

The bitch doesn't try and fix his broken wings, because she's flying honey. Now ladies and gentlemen, don't get me wrong, the bitch is sweet as pie. She's never nasty and never lets her emotions take the reigns because she knows that an emotional woman is not a woman in control.  She lets her man, be a man, while she enjoys the benefits of doing so.  A man never likes to be told what to do, so the bitch never nags, why? Because the bitch wants to be his lover, not his mother.

The bitch is elegant but sassy.  Clever but dumb like a fox.  Generous but does not jump through hoops to impress him.  The man is already impressed with her true self. And why? Because she respects herself, she respects him, and that's what's sexy. She doesn't vocalize how she should be treated, she shows it through her actions.  She's sexy, sassy, and 100% real.

"One of the things about equality is not that you be treated equally to a man, but that you treat yourself equally to the way you treat a man"- Marlo Thomas

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